We Kissed an Old Flame. Would I Inform My Present Chap?

Reader matter:

I found this person about two and a half months in the past. About monthly in the past, I asked him if he had been seeing someone else and he stated no. We stated I was perhaps not both.

But since that time wen’t truly had a “defining the relationship” dialogue. Our commitment is starting to become sexual, but personally i think short-changed in an emotional sense.

I went into a classic fire at a bar, and he wound up walking me personally house so we kissed. Really don’t want to date this old flame.

Carry out I want to inform the present “guy” about my event? So is this infidelity? Is it man throwing away my time, or should I ask him to “DTR”?

-Dee D. (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Response:

Oh my, Dee. Countless questions. OK, I would ike to break this all the way down for you. Like so many ladies in the usa nowadays who think that female sex is equivalent to a man’s, you involved with intercourse before a commitment now are paying the emotional cost.

But it’s not as late to obtain some definition. Required courage. But staying in a low-criteria relationship will harm you ultimately. And, no, you should not inform the existing guy concerning kissy-face making use of outdated fire.

But once you have that “defining the relationship” dialogue, you much better become an excellent gf and stay away from most of the hot fires, outdated and new.

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